People, particularly young people, are having less sex.
Here are some articles on the subject that reference recent US polling on this subject
From the BBC:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/f98ed501-d075-4b3a-abca-7e46bd8904cf
From The Atlantic:
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/
From The Washington Post
https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/
Many reasons are put forward in these articles to explain the issue: economics; porn; risk aversion and more. One article I haven’t included even included this gem:
The rise of individualism means that people have more opportunities to live the lives they want, not the ones dictated by norms or pressures
Which suggests that people have just been having sex because of peer pressure rather than being an evolutionary instinct!
I suspect that individualism is a factor in decreasing sex rates, just not in the manner that the above writer supposes.
The cult of ‘individualism’ means putting yourself first. Feminists say this philosophy enables women to be true to their real selves rather than being subservient to the needs of others. However, to me, this feels like they are not being true to themselves but are instead playing the role of ‘strong, independent woman’ that feminism now demands of them. Also, the idea of putting yourself first is not a likeable trait. What is now known as individualism used be known as selfishness. It’s not very attractive to potential sexual partners. Not so long ago, individuals conformed to the demands of their societies. These days there is a lot of pressure for societies to conform to the demands of individuals.
However, I have another theory that i feel is even more relevant: these days, men and women are too similar to be attracted to each other.
Historically, the attraction between men and women has been based on differences. Yet those differences no longer exist.
Women used to appeal to men because they were so different from men. Women were seen as exotic creatures. Not only were their bodies so very different, but their minds also. They thought differently from men and they had different interests. Men didn’t understand women and that was a large part of the attraction. Men were drawn to these mysterious creatures in the way cats are compelled by curiosity to investigate new or different things: warily but unable to resist.
I imagine that women were similarly intrigued by men: men were these powerful creatures, capable of brilliance but also frightening at times. Men were tough and aggresive but also offered protection and tenderness. Men must have seemed quite exhilarating when viewed from afar.
Also, women and men were largely segregated in society which added to the frisson when they encountered each other. Men and women didn’t work together. When boys and girls attended school together, it was during the pre-puberty years. Also, education ended around the time of puberty so there wasn’t much time for smooching behind the bike sheds. In short order after leaving school, the boys started working at the local factory and the girls learnt that being a scullery maid wasn’t as exotic as it sounded.
In most areas of life, men had their own spaces and women had their own spaces.
As such, men and women could let their imaginations direct their sexual longing. To men, women could be anything that men weren’t. And as far as women were concerned, men could be anything that women wanted them to be.
These days, the genders do not have their own spaces: they work together, they attend university together, they use the same gender neutral toilets. Women have demanded access to all males spaces, including the boy scouts. There is a lot more contact between the genders than there was 50 years ago. Increased contact reduces mystery.
In addition, to increased contact, the latest Leftist ideology tells us that there is no difference between the genders: not only can women do everything that men can do, but the new definitions for ‘men’ and ‘women’ are blurring the lines between the genders. The old definitions are banned. We are now told that gender is merely a lifestyle choice. Every child is told that they can choose their own gender based on how they ‘feel’.
Men can easily choose to be women if they feel like it. Women can choose to be men. Gender benders. We are told that the differences between men and women are just social constructs: in reality, there are no differences between men and women. All of this realignment kills sexual attraction. Where’s the attraction if boys no longer grow up with the belief that women are these mysterious creatures. Now boys are told that women are exactly the same as them, but with tits. And actually, women don’t even have to have tits any more. Not only are there no longer psychological differences between the genders, there no longer need to be physiological differences: it is possible for a woman to have a penis just like you do.
Women are told they can be just like men. So women drink more and swear more and adopt the casual sexual practises of men. Androgynous appearances are the new thing. A certain minority of Leftist women has always refused to dress to please men but there are now increasing numbers of women that ascribe to this approach. As such, more women are dressing functionally so they can be ready for SJW duties at a moment’s notice. Make up is a definite no-no. This look is not attractive to men. Feminists are mistaken if they think that their personalities are going to compensate for them looking like men.
As for men, we are told to be less like traditional (toxic) men. Men must show how in touch they are with their feelings. The Gillette advert tells us that that striking up a conversation with a women you don’t know is little different from sexual assault. Certain men have disgendered themselves to such an extent that they now call themselves feminists. Women do not feel a strong sexual attraction to these men. However, if you are a female social justice warrior operating within a Leftist bubble, you will have very little choice but to select from this category of ‘man’. I think this explains the attempts by the Left to re-brand polyamory: Leftists are now seeking out quantity over quality.
More and more things are unisex. From toilets to toiletries. Companies are embracing androgynous products as the way forward: why have separate products and marketing campaigns for men and women when you can sell the same stuff to everyone and reduce the risk of offending a transgender activist?
The differences between between the genders are being closed down. Men can choose to stay at home and look after the children. Women can play football. All well and good but blurring the distinctions between the genders has implications.
All in all, men and women are being thrust together like never before. And, as a result, they are discovering that they just don’t like each other.
Of course, the fact that loads of young people look like a dumpster truck full of lard doesn’t help the mating game either.
The only people having decent amounts of sex these days are right wing people: they are the people who are not afraid to adhere to the gender stereotypes that were accepted in our society prior to last Tuesday. Right wing boys aspire to be men and right wing girls aspire to be women.